(prerequisite is my blog on Getting Along in a Social Setting)
(Also worth your viewing is comic caricatures at this web site defining the many online group flame warriors dysfunctional behaviors ...
http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/)
The many faulty, fault correction behaviors used in dysfunctional groups and by select savage individuals creates an unhealthy climate increasing the cold weather fronts of hostility, animosity, irritability, intolerance, hatred, and many other negative human behavior responses counterproductive socially.
In interpersonal communication and relationships, it is the differences recognized in others that initiates the fault finding, fault riddance discrimination syndrome . It is very difficult when someone believes there is a fault in another when it is not actually a fault but natural human diversity: differences such as a disability, a developmentally acquired attribute, or some other distinguishing feature.
Unlike faults, diversity is not bad and it is good to be discerning of differences so as to improve one's self and others. To know and for others to know your strengths and weakness is prerequisite to improving thereon, being able to appreciate how much improvement has occurred overall, and how much to expect in the future.
Diversity deserves group attitudes and actions that foster understanding, acceptance, tolerance, and also providing helpful, caring, responsive therapeutic treatment or special counseling if needed. Diversity in a group should not be a problem if the differences that distinguish an individual's specific strengths and weaknesses are allowed. Conformance compatibility changes and expectations required within a group should be flexible enough to accommodate the individual's special needs.
Related to the problem of dysfunctional fault finding behavior, is the disagreeable fault creating troll and the various trolling behaviors that should be cast out and banned. Trolls are negatively and rapidly reproducing their species creating unusual breeds of trolls where each breed has many varieties making it difficult to cope with the problems the troll creates.
In general, the species of trolls is a person choosing dysfunctional behavior. The troll does not even believe the way he writes, he just writes it just to provoke negative response, (that's trolling). Just disagreeing (however loudly and/or wrongly you may think) isn't trolling because dissent is valuable in a group especially if it is sincerely expressed, valid, and not meant to be a political ploy detraction.
A troll is a bully who harms others and disregards the rights of
others. The troll uses low level fault finding behaviors on the entire group or individuals within a group increasing disharmony, discord, and dysfunction of a group's member or the entire group. The troll creates confusion muddying the discussion by mixing up the minds of the participants.
The troll is the villain. Given choice, the troll chooses evil, bad versus good, destructive behavior versus constructive. Zooming in on the label, trolling unreasonably disagreeing with something that's a known fact or otherwise claims to own/have done/seen something that is either clearly impossible or intentionally formatted so that it get's on the other person's nerves, exasperating their patience and tolerance excessively. Don't feed a troll by arguing with him because you have then become his victim.
Don't confuse a villainous troll with diversity members in a group.
Diversity members sincerely want to participate as they are able to positively and constructively. A troll is bad and wants to make others into worse trolls. Member by member, he can disable an otherwise productive group rendering it dysfunctional. Call in the sharp shooters to apprehend and eliminate trolls.
Never allow a troll to reproduce his species of dysfunctional behavior in what ever nuanced breed and variety evidenced. Attenuate the troll's affects on others by neutering his dysfunctional behavior then humanely, safely dispose, and protect yourself from this remorseless, unconscionable, parasitic pariah.
Pariahs tend to reinforce each other and form their own cliques within a group and perhaps attempt takeover of the group entirely. I don't know if it is possible to reform or rehabilitate the pariah, but perhaps someone may try and succeed. Perhaps the pariah will reform and rehabilitate their self becoming a welcome member in social groups that encourage and reward positive self improvement changes. There is hope that dysfunctional behaviors will be eliminated entirely.
Good luck to all with the tasks of creating a better tomorrow.With positive self improvement behavior, the social climate will become socially healthier and much more enjoyable.
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